“There is only one happiness in life… To love and to be loved”    –   George Sand


Finding love and a wonderful person to be with doesn’t have to be a dream. With many relationships and marriages often ending in divorce, our society clearly needs a new path. It is time to redefine what it means to be in a relationship.

Often, people make a mistake thinking “They are okay and they will change into my dream person because they love me”. If that sounds familiar, you are in for a rude awakening. People rarely change. Instead, why not look for the person of your dreams right away? Don’t settle for “good” when you can have “great”.

”Like attracts like” – To find the person of my dreams I first have to become that person myself.

All of us have a frequency like a radio. To listen to a certain station, we have to find the right frequency. For example, if one of the attributes you are looking for is kindness, you should be kind yourself. You must attune yourself to the same frequency of your dream partner.

Etiquette plays a vital role in this kind of relationship building. It does not matter if you are dating or if you are already in a relationship. If you don’t know how to interact with others, people will be distracted by your behavior and you will miss the chance to let your personality shine. Proper etiquette allows others to focus on the qualities you wish to exude.

When you go and meet people, it is important to know appropriate behavior.  “Who pays on the first date”, “Do I ask before I touch or kiss someone?”, “Is it okay to kiss in public?” These are important questions and you should certainly know the most graceful way to handle these situations.

Marietta Stuhlfelder, 2020

When we fall in love we walk on clouds. Our hearts beat faster as soon as we see the person who holds our affections. Life sometimes seems to stop, but sometimes it spirals out of control too.

Butterflies swirl around in our bellies and make us feel drunk with all the happiness we feel. Our feet seem to hover above the ground and our heads touch the clouds. Our love is so endless like the stars in the sky. Our love glitters and sparkles like the sun rays touching the water during sunset. Our hopes for pure love awake again when the sun rises in the dance

When we first meet a person we see the good in them, their potential, and their hopes and dreams. We love the quirky little things they do and think them to be charming. We love the twinkle in their eyes when they laugh. It breaks our heart when they cry. We want to be close and look in their eyes to see ourselves in them. The eyes are the windows to the soul, so they say.

So let me look deeply in your eyes and see the valleys, mountains, beaches, deserts and oceans of your soul. Give me a road map so I am able to understand you better. Help me to feel safe on our journey we are on together and show me the way when I am lost in the depth of your soul and heart. I want to love you, understand you and hold you close forever in my arms. I want to hold your hand and be your rock in the stormy sea of life.

Love is light in the beginning and often at some point it turns heavy on us. The day-by-day routines keep us prisoners and easily we forget the ease of life and love. Our love turns sour like old milk and breaks into thousand pieces like a glass falling on the ground. We trample on the feelings of our loved ones and turn our backs on them when they cry. Lost is the connection of the hands and we’d rather throw them in the sea like a useless rock instead of being the rock for them.

Every single day we have to make a conscious decision to love with the greatest of ease. Every single day we have to hold hands, kiss passionately and look deeply in the eyes of each other to see their soul. How does their soul landscape look like today? Is it a breezy morning on the beach? Is it a heavy thunderstorm in the mountains? Can we hear the voice in the wilderness? Can we see the ship of the desert?

You might be surprised what you can find when you dare to go on an adventure. So put your walking shoes on, pack your backpack with lots of love and kindness, fill up your water bottle with respect and flavor it with trust and loyalty. Also pack some band aids should you get hurt on the way when you explore and climb the jagged volcanoes with their sharp edges.

I can assure you this wonderful adventure will last a lifetime. Every day you will find a new hidden gem and lovely little gardens with fragrant and colorful flowers. But you have to dare to look and leave the heaviness behind you. It is all just a choice away. So go, and love with the greatest of ease…

Marietta Stuhlfelder, 2020